One of the most painful experiences to go through is the unbelief of others who did not actually witness your or your children's abuse and so doubt the victims' story. These are the ones who are so loyal to the abuser that it seems unfathomable to them that something like sexual abuse of a child could ever be true. I've been on either end of the spectrum. When I first heard about my ex-husband's sexual abuses, I was shocked. Sure, I knew he was emotionally abusive. I knew he was neglectful. The sexual abuse against a child(ren) well, how did I not see it? Most victims will fall into the blame game. They will blame themselves for somehow causing the abuse and then feel awful when and if the abuser is caught or makes him/herself scarce after being scrutinized. It's all part of that guilt that the abuser oppresses you with. The other problem lies in the community that the victim once embraced . In my case, everyone heard...